Besides the fact….part duex

Yes, “part duex” as in a very bad sequel 

Subtitle:  Cutting your nose off despite your face….  I do not enjoy saying “I told you so!” however, ” doggone it, I told you so!!”

I would totally love to scream that loud enough that it would break glasses and could echo all the way to Timbuktu!!

There is not a person alive, my self included. who enjoys being told they are wrong, or were wrong, let alone someone who can prove you are wrong. It doesn’t matter what it’s about either. It is in poor taste to say “I told you so” also.  So I am seriously trying hard not to do that

So anyway, that whole situation with my kid in When the music’s over  and also Besides the fact… many have asked for an update to what, if anything happened with all that as school is about to start here and fall football season has a marching band.

Each year, we all have pretty much begged them To move him from mellophone to percussion.  The first year was a flat out no but last summer he was able to try out, and the teachers were actually surprised and he was moved straight away.  The wound from pretty much ripped open when this instructor refused again to keep him in percussion, and truly in my desperation to keep this kid in band, I was not ever given an answer to the  the reason why by the the instructor since last February.  My disheartened son quit completely.  I had a gut instinct this instructor was going to pull his usual, ” oh no you misunderstood, he’s in percussion, I don’t know why anyone would ever think that”. Because you said so is why and lack of any sort of reason, well that is just rude and insulting really
 So, in a nutshell,

There are always two weeks of marching band practice starting the last week or so.  Unfortunately, my father passed away during the first week this summer,  so my daughter couldn’t attend. A serious event  for any family and thankfull  they didn’t throw a fit over it.

The whole shit and shebang and a whole lot of WTH? came that first day of band camp when the other instructor sent a text asking him to come to band camp.  I called this last March. ” I swear to God on Granny’s grave” And it this point, if it had been addressed in any way the past seven months,  none of us would be here, including the instructors who need percussion players

 Isn’t that just great?? Decided he was worth it because he is actually a great musician? Last year he was wanting to even play in a college matching band because he enjoyed it so much and a few of his friends are in one at USC and are having a lot of fun, and now he hates it….truly hates it because of these asssnine games.

If they had ever said the kid just sucked sob bad that they just didn’t need a kid like that to try to teach all this entails, I probably would of been mad, but would have had this kid maybe go back to taking drum lessons that he did about in 7th grade when he played the french horn they chose for him.  That’s not the case, I have heard nothing but compliments from them about both my children, that’s what kills me here. If he was awful he wouldn’t been asked to come back.  Seems a whole lot of “cutting our joe off despite the face”

My daughter was able to try out early and be in the high school marching band as an 8 th grader, I agreed to let her try out for PIT because her brother was in drumline and I felt comfortable with her there because he would be as an 11th grader

This is strikes me in some bizarre comical way because it is an adult I’m dealing with,  not the conniving 17 year old girl playing the part in “Mean Girls” who changes “the rules” up without telling you to feed the craving for attention,  even negative attention just to get attention.

That being said, it’s actually tragic, not in the sense of catastrophic tragedy like a tsunami, volcanic eruption or a hurricane destruction but tragic in the sense that psychologically speaking here,  not only has my kid been shot down down and let down from success at the hand of his teacher, his mentor here.                It gets even worse, he has also just gotten a sour taste of  reality, and realized the one lesson a parent tries to enstill in their children from a young age:.

if they try their best, give it their all, with hard work, commitment, perseverance, and dedication to the things they just love so much, all of that will pay off and they can succeed in their dreams and aspirations

Just doesn’t seem so true now does it? ,     So, here sits momma trying to convince him that this situation just wasn’t his fault and  that working towards your dreams IS rewarding,  now it is just finding out what that dream is!

One thing in closing, I had to really commend my son for sticking to his guns here.  Despite the fact he absolutely enjoyed being a part of this tight knit group of kids, he was so very appalled at the way he was treated that he said if it happened again, he was “done”.  I wasn’t raised to be a quitter and neither was he, however, we all have made the effort to about this on our end, it was acknowledges and after almost 8 months, I don’t blame this kid one iota!





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