Kids glorious kids 


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So, here goes, i own 2, one boy & one girl. First and foremost, they hold my heart, beyond  more than I could every fathom as a non-mom, now I just couldn’t imagine a day without them ever. Two pretty snazzy kids man, I tell you they have way more sarcasm then I do, they were experts by age 7 for him, and about 3 for her.  This card plays all too well with the smarts they have, as  will see while we move along here.  The one thing I am very proud thus far was pointed out by my own Momma just recently.  First,  I must explain we are now 5 years post divorce with an additional  2-3years trying to achieve divorce, so a total of at least 7 years that these now 15 & 12 year olds have been coping with the atrocities that come from a divorce that was bad (are any good?)  a less than present truly screwed up & abusive biological father who shows up once a year maybe,  5 years ago they have moved 1000 miles away from their home to start fresh with me, they have replaced their  biological father with my “Troy”  who has helped them to master their sassiness and they are tired of waiting for our wedding in which they remind me a lot we forgot to do that still,  to say the least, they have had their share.  I’ve been hated because of numerous things along the way, just liked every other Momma out there, therapy being number 1 on the list but as of late, they no longer “hate” it but only lothe it because they are doing so well that they don’t have to go, just check in with their therapist.  Together, the four of us with the help of my parents, have made a breakthrough into what I like to say our “dysfunctional family is now functional together.” We are far from the Beaver Cleaver’s of this world but what we have works pretty damn great now.  They are far from typical teens some may say  but they are perfectly typical to themselves and to me because like it or not,  they own what they have been thru and do not need to be stifled in any way because of it, oh no they know better than that by now. So why is it I am so proud?  My Momma said after my Thing2 stayed a few days there after which she said this, Troy & I accomplished a major milestone that despite everything that has happened, my children have remained loving little souls, both of them so full of  love from us  but also openly giving  love willingly to their family, it’s so not forced & they thrive on it.  I must admit that I do as well, it’s much more than I can exactly explain, because I thrive on it too.  It’s fulfilling in a magical way.  So many kids hit a stage where family is not important or lacks respect for.  Not my kids.  I think we kept close eye during the overwhelmingly & potentially damaging time where hearts were broken, family lines drawn, where they could of been lost for good really.  No person out there should ever think they didn’t keep close eye on me either, my son learned all to well how to be protective of both me & Troy, and my gosh my daughter did too!  Together, Troy,  and myself along with my parents, kept them pulled up by their bootstraps enough to keep their giddy-up going somedays.  I can say each night as Thing2 says “goodnight mummy” that she requires “a proper hug” just like Leigh Anne Tuohy in The blindside before she will even think about going to bed.  My son is less dramatic, nonetheless I get a heartfelt  “I love you” & a real hug no wimpy stuff, so does Troy, and my parents always do as well.  We are a bunch of cheesballs with the  love we share & show, but my God considering the alternative, I will take cheesy every day of the week & twice on Sunday!’ This simplest Mothers Day gift…a letter with 3 more, one for when I am sick, when I am sad, and when I am excited.  There was not one that applied to the tears the first letter brought me to…

 

6 thoughts on “Kids glorious kids 

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